I’ve always loved Valentine’s Day.
By conventional wisdom, I shouldn’t have many reasons to love this day. I’m usually single; while I was in a relationship the last two years, this year my love is five hours away in his new role, and we’re currently exploring the boundaries of a relationship that really isn’t a relationship, but still holds a lot of love and respect for each other. It’s complicated (clearly), but for all intents and purposes, I am again single.
But everything is pink (my favorite color), and men are buying roses, and women are making dinner dates, and pizza places are selling heart-shaped pizzas. It’s just fun to have a lot of “love energy” in the air, whether you’re in a relationship or not. I like cheesy romance novels and movies; I like seeing the frantic men looking at cards in the grocery store on Tuesday morning; I like all of the pink-themed bakery items. I just love love!
So in the spirit of loving this holiday but not having a romantic date, this year I am focused on “self-love,” which is actually having its time in the spotlight. I personally think it kicked off with Arianna Huffington’s new Thrive venture, and her crusade on making sure we get enough sleep. There’s also currently a lot of interest in the Danish concept of hygge.
My personal opinion is that, as we are living in tumultuous times on a national and global scale, self-love and self-care are more important than ever. I’m of the firm belief that “your vibe attracts your tribe” – and you can only have a high vibration if you take the time to take care of yourself.
So, here are my plans for my personal Valentine’s Day of self-love and care:
- Yoga. I usually start my days with at least five to 10 minutes of yoga and stretching; today shall be no exception! I’m not really the type to get in a hard workout first thing in the morning, but yoga allows me to get in some movement and connect with my body. I can begin my day grounded and aware of my presence.
- Celebrating with others. I plan to make the day fun by sharing the joy with my coworkers; since we are all women, we actually celebrated “Galentine’s Day” yesterday! We’ll continue sharing the love today, and celebrating our unique talents we all bring to the workplace.
- Fancy dinner. By “fancy,” I mean something I like and enjoy! I will be preparing a dinner-for-one at home. While I do live alone so this in itself isn’t that special, I plan to pour a glass of red wine, light a candle, turn off the TV, and just generally make today’s dinner a calm respite from my day. I plan to make this three-cheese zucchini lasagna.
- Bubble bath. Personally, I love bubble baths. I usually reserve them for either Friday or Saturday evenings, to enjoy at the end of a long week. But today I will not only enjoy a bubble bath in the middle of the week, I will use one of my more expensive, luxury bath bombs AND bring that glass of wine from dinner along. (Who am I kidding … it will likely be a second glass of wine.) I also have a couple of magazines I’d like to read, so those will join me, as well.
- Reading. My personal rule is no social media between the hours of 9 p.m. and 9 a.m., and no device usage after 9:30 p.m. Today, though, I’ll put the phone up early and curl up with a good book, one of my favorite things to do. I’m currently reading “The Audacity of Hope” by Barack Obama.
- Meditation. Just like yoga, I always end my day with meditation. And, just like with my morning yoga, today shall be no exception. To help drift off to sleep, I like using meditations on YouTube from Hay House or Michael Sealey.
I’m excited and honored to celebrate love today by cherishing the highest love of all … self-love. When we love ourselves, we honor the higher power which created us, and there is no more sacred love than that. Consider this lovely poem by the poet/artist rupi kaur:
the universe took its time on you
crafted you precisely
so you could offer the world
something distinct from everyone else
so when you doubt
how you were created
you doubt an energy greater than us both.
Happy Valentine’s Day, my friends, and namaste. ❤